Take a moment and ask yourself this question. It's one of the most critical questions, "Do I know how a toxic relationship looks like?"
The longer the relationship lasts, the more ups and downs. It is normal, but it is essential to be aware of certain negative behaviours of your partner to avoid their toxic effects. Imagine how much pain you could relieve yourself if you knew the answer to this question in more depth. But, you could have made a few changes before it is too late and before the relationship came to a crisis.
1. Your partner controls you
The people who control them feel the need to be responsible for everything and manipulate everything around them. If you think that you need to ask his permission for simple things like meeting other friends, this is a sign that your partner controls you.
What do you have to do:
This toxic habit is a reaction to anxiety, jealousy and insecurity. You can try to help your partner to feel safe by talking openly about his behaviour. If she recognizes what is happening and knows that she can have complete confidence in you, then there is hope for saving the relationship.
2. Your partner does not trust you
After a conversation with your partner, do you often feel like a horrible person? If so, maybe it's time to start paying more attention to how he talks to you.
If he criticizes you and makes you ashamed of yourself, this is a clear sign that he wants you not to trust yourself and not realize what a wonderful person you are. Such behaviour destroys relationships. Instead of helping you feel included in the relationship, supporting you unconditionally, keeping you and believing in you, it makes you feel alone and isolated, without any power.
What do you have to do:
People with such a habit do it to feel better about themselves. If you feel hurt because of the comments made by your partner, it is essential to reevaluate whether this relationship is what you need. You need a person you can trust to give you unconditional love, not someone who breaks your wings and doesn't believe in you.
Talk to your partner, and if he is not willing to listen or try to understand how his behaviour affects you, it would be best to distance yourself from him.
3. The couple's partner has a passive-aggressive behaviour
Have you ever been in a situation where you asked your partner to do something for you? He accepted, but when he did, it was unpleasantly? In which he seemed to resist? He didn't want to do that and constantly complained about what you asked him to do? It is passive-aggressive behaviour.
What do you have to do:
Passive-aggressive people do not know how to communicate their feelings. They often expect you to read their minds and already know what they are going through. The reason they have so much trouble being open and honest is simple: they are afraid of disappointing others. They are worried that if they say "No", they risk losing their loved ones.
So they prefer to agree to do something even if they don't want to do it. The key here is to help your partner feel safe around you, to be honest about their feelings.
